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You've heard of soulmates, but have you ever heard of twin flames?
A lot of people think soulmates are your "one true love," but that's not always the case. Anyone can be your soulmate. Your boyfriend, your mom, your brother, your classmate, your coworker, some random old lady on the subway, or all of the above. They're meant to awaken us and teach us new things, but contrary to popular belief, our relationship with them isn't always meant to last forever.
Twin flames, on the other hand, are soulmates on steroids. You might have dozens of soulmates, but you only have one twin flame — one other half of your soul — one person you're meant to be with for all of eternity.
You can go ahead and call it cheesy and unrealistic, but the concept dates back to the B.C. days. In The Symposium, Plato writes, "According to Greek Mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves."
But Plato wasn't the only scholar in history to speak on the phenomenon of twin flames. The Sufis often talked about twin souls, writing, "The last stage of [spiritual awakening] is the splitting of one soul into two."
Writers often wrote about their experience with twin soul relationships, too. Rumi once wrote, "The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along." (BRB while I'll bawl my eyes out 😭)
Many would argue that Catherine and Heathcliff's relationship from Wuthering Heights is the perfect example of a twin flame relationship. Despite being separated by race, money and social class, the couple managed to find each other in life and in death. And with quotes like, "He's more myself than I am. Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same," there's no denying that writer Emily Bronté was fascinated by the twin flame relationship.
And if you're about to ask, "Um, where the hell is my twin flame?," then boy, do we have bad news for you.
Some specialists argue that not everyone gets the opportunity to meet their other half in this lifetime. They might be in a different dimension, in purgatory, or you know, they might even be an 87-year-old dude living across the globe. Others believe that not everyone has a twin flame because that type of relationship isn't meant for everyone's ~journey.~
Even if you are destined to meet your twin flame in this lifetime, y'all gonna have to go through some serious s**t before that happens. While your connection with them is immediate, your relationship often takes some time to develop due to outside forces.
Before Noah and Allie (The Notebook), Ron and Hermione (Harry Potter) and Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy (Pride and Prejudice) skip into the sunset and enjoy an eternity of happiness, they have to go through their fair share of trials and tribulations. Sadly, it's no different for us ordinary folk. While twin flame relationships are immensely powerful and passionate, they're far from perfect.
But at the end of the day, it's worth it. Twin flames generally have a higher purpose to achieve together, whether it be raising a new generation of children, starting a business, or just not-so-casually being the living embodiment of love while giving society something to look up to.
If you have to ask yourself, "Am I with my twin flame?," then chances are you aren't. Twin flame relationships are unlike anything you've ever felt before. It's definitely a "once you know, you know" type situation, you know?